Summer Filled PolkaDots And Beating The Demons In Her Mind (Awareness)

Can you see how PROUD I am of my little girl?!  *Original Post 8/13/14

My baby girl has grown so fast and has come a LONG way.  She developed an eating disorder at 4 years old and is one of my main inspirations for creating BBWGeneration.  Every day it is a goal to make her AND my Son KNOW that they are AMAZING humans no matter what size they are.  They are part of the work we do as a family on this blog and the catalysts of CHANGE we’d like to see in the world.
This Summer my Daughter had a difficult time with her body image.  While she’s developing faster than her friends she couldn’t understand why she was so much bigger than her friends that were tiny in comparison.  When the years past she felt confident wearing a Bikini this Summer she confided that she didn’t like the way she looked in one.
So I was called to action… as a Caring Mom and as an Activist.  I reassured her that she is beautiful and explained the changes that are taking place in her body.  Gave her the history of my own age of development – which was one year younger than she – and helped reinforce her self esteem and confidence.
She is the reason I went full force on my Bikini photo shoots.  As she stood by watching my Son take the pictures and doing her role of assistant stylist I saw the light in her eyes.  With each shoot she would drop beside me while I edited and finally confessed:
“Mom, I wish I could wear a bikini like you.”
What kind of world do we live in when a beautiful little girl doesn’t see the beauty she holds?!  Brings me to tears when it’s MY little girl.  I work with her every day and reinforce her strengths and beauty and had her choose a new bathing suit that SHE feels GORGEOUS in.  She wanted to match my polka-dot bikini and decided on a retro inspired design that I found at”Target” on line.
We haven’t been able to do a shoot when we visited the beach and water park prior to my hysterectomy.  On this day my daughter drew waves with blue and white chalk on our concrete wall and demanded we have an imaginary beach day and put our polka-dot swimsuits on and get wet the old fashion way – with a water hose! We did our photo shoot before getting wet.
I can almost TOUCH the confidence she projects in this shoot.  I am so PROUD of her for letting me help her overcome those demons.  Keeping an open communication and a pro-active response is key and my biggest defense in helping my children grow up with as much confidence and acceptance so that these negative thoughts no longer live in their minds.
May she feel this beautiful and confident from now until forever!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

16 Comments

  1. August 13, 2014 / 4:45 pm

    Ahh, she is beautiful! Just like her momma!!

  2. August 13, 2014 / 4:53 pm

    This brought tears to my eyes. You are such a good mama. <3 Love it!

    • August 24, 2014 / 6:25 pm

      Thank you Anne! I cry every time I think on it.

  3. August 13, 2014 / 5:06 pm

    Yes to all of it Liz! I'm so happy she can find the strength to love herself by watching you do the same…Oh and tell her she looks absolutely beautiful, I'm loving that swimsuit!

    • August 24, 2014 / 6:26 pm

      Thank you Zadry! I will have her read this post and comments tonight.

  4. August 13, 2014 / 8:22 pm

    I love this! All this advice and reinforcement you're doing now, will result in a healthy, happy, confident teenager! The world needs more parents like you! 🙂

    • August 24, 2014 / 6:26 pm

      Thank you Lory! That is my goal for my children.

  5. August 13, 2014 / 9:47 pm

    I grew up a lot like your daughter. I developed a lot earlier than my classmates; I had to start wearing a bra in the second grade, I've always been tall, I've always had a big frame, and got "fat" right before I started elementary school. I was also one of the few black kids in my classes all through school. I was always teased and bullied for every reason possible, and would come home to my mom criticizing my weight and my creative interests. I turned to food for comfort and binge-compulsively ate, a type of eating disorder often over looked. It led to a suicide attempt at 14… And not until I made myself change my way of thinking at 16 did all that change. It's taken many years, but it's nice to have confidence about who I am and what I look like. I'm proud to say I love my body, and I'm proud to say I'm an educated woman that loves her mind before anything else. What got me through was focusing on myself, my education, and my dreams because no one will live my life for me.

    Your daughter is beautiful, and she's blessed to have a mother to teach her that she is beautiful. I hope she eventually finds inner peace. It does get a lot easier as one grows up, establishes independence, and learns about themselves. Life gets better. 🙂

    • August 24, 2014 / 6:28 pm

      Thank you Iman! It makes me hurt when I read your words. I am so glad you were able to overcome this and are still in this world with me.
      Hugz and STRENGTH!

  6. August 15, 2014 / 2:04 am

    Beautiful – times 2!!! You both look gorgeous in your polka dot bathing suits!!!

  7. August 16, 2014 / 1:06 pm

    I love this Liz. Your daughter is amazing and stunning, look at her eyes ….wowowoww

    • August 24, 2014 / 6:28 pm

      Thank you! She and my Son are my pride and joy!

  8. August 22, 2014 / 11:21 am

    WOW you are wonderful! this is my first time on your blog and I love it! you are so alive and full of joy 🙂 your child looks very confident and loved 🙂 you give her a great start to life 🙂

    • August 24, 2014 / 6:29 pm

      Welcome and thank you! I am trying my best as a Mom.

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